Capulet arranges for Juliet to marry Paris, while Romeo’s parents have already given him near complete freedom—to the point that he never even goes home during the entire course of the play. Few people in today’s world would argue in favor of arranged marriages, but parents often have strict rules over where teenagers can go, who they can date, and what time they should be home. How much control should a parent have over the social life of a teenager? What kinds of restrictions on a teenager’s freedom do you think are reasonable? Do parents sometimes have different rules for teen boys and teen girls?
It is my opinion that a parent should discuss rules about social life with their teenagers. If the teenagers don't feel like they have a say in the rules, they will be broken. The same thing will happen if the rules are too strict. However, the rules must not be too lenient for the teen's safety. Rules protecting safety are the most important of all. The rules should also reflect the teen's behavior in the past. If individual boys or girls tend to have gotten in more trouble before, then their rules should be different. No rules should be made purely because of gender though.
ReplyDeleteI think parents should definitely discuss their rules and make sure they are fair. I may be biased as a teen but I think the majority of the time parents are too strict, and usually in the wrong areas. protecting their safely is definitely a necessity but I think parents get confused with what they think is protecting them opposed to just wanting to control them. And yes gender shouldn't even be a factor in punishments and rules in the house.
DeleteI agree that parents should base their rules on behavior and safety. I believe that control can get out of hand when parents think "it's right for their kid." The more control the parent enforces on the kid, the more that a kid is going to try and rebel against them. There should be rules to keep the kids in line and to keep them safe but safety shouldn't be decided by gender. Some behaviors might be different for kids, so maybe it will seem as gender plays a role in the rules but most of the time, it shouldn't.
DeleteI also think that parents should base their rules off of their kids needs. I think that parents should make rules and regulations on what their child is having the most issues with "keeping in check". Although I think there should be rules, I agree they shouldn't be to controlling either. I think that kids have the ability to turn to their parents when they need them. I also agree that gender should not have a role in parents rules.
DeleteI agree 100% with what you are saying. I believe that parents should give their teens at least a little bit of choice. There is a balance with how much choice their child should have and how much power the parent has. But I do think that teens can make stupid decisions, so the parents should help them when they are in that situation. Parents should help teach their children as they grow up what is the right thing to do. I think when their children are young the parents should make most of the decisions because of their age and the fact that they probably don’t have a lot of knowledge yet. But as they get older, I think the parents should slowly give their children more responsibilities and the chance to decide. If the parents did a good job parenting when the children were younger the children should make better decisions. Once the children become teenagers the parents should only probably need to once and a while remind them what to do. Still, the teenagers are not adults yet so I still think that the parents should still have a little bit of choice on what their child can and cannot do. I believe that parents should never force their children to marry someone else because that is just not right. Parents can’t make their teen’s future for them because, in the end, the teen is the only one who can choose what they want to do.
DeleteI also think that parents should try and give their children a say or let them attempt to persuade their rules otherwise. I don't think that a teen will be broken though if they don't get what they want. Throughout a child's life their parents are forced to say no many times, and I think by the time they become a teen they should be used to being denied.
DeleteI agree, I think there are a lot of parents that are way too strict and it makes the relationship worse, often pushing the child to disobey there parents more than if the parents were more considerate and thought about what their kid wanted instead of just themselves.
DeleteI feel like parents should have a balance with their children and I feel like that balance they have with their children also depends on the age but I don't think that balance should depend on the gender. When parents have younger children, it's understandable for them to give them a lot of freedom because it's not like they're going to go party with their friends or get arrested somehow. But, once they start growing up, its understandable to establish more rules because now they can go partying or get in big trouble with the police or other people. But, the amount of rules or freedom one of their kids has over the other should never depend on the gender of their child. If there is ever a time when one of their children around the same age has less freedom then the other then I feel like that should only be because the child with less freedom has made some big mistakes and the parent is enforcing more rules just to keep them on a good path. Also, I feel like parents shouldn't compare their children with each other or be really biased.
ReplyDeleteI think that you are correct and the amount of freedom awarded to the teenager shouldn't depend on there gender.
DeleteI agree with this to some extent, but you have to put into some consideration that the world is a different place for girls than guys. About 74% of abductions outside of the abductors family are girls. This is why I feel like parents should be a little more careful with their daughters than their sons, but not to make it too unfair.
DeleteI agree with this and that rules shouldn't just be based on gender. Maybe gender might have a small effect on the rules but it definitely shouldn't have a big one. I also agree with that parents shouldn't be comparing their kids to each other or be super biased. Every person is different and acts to certain situations different than others. So, it is unfair to directly compare people. That being said siblings can also have totally different needs, so I think that the rules sometimes need to be altered to fit that person's needs. But, while doing this the rules still need to be similar to make sure parents aren't too strict on one kid.
DeleteI agree with the original statement as children shouldn't have different rules just based on gender. Sure this can become a factor but it really it shouldn't. But age should definitely be a factor, as children get older they think that they should automatically gain more freedom, but it might be the opposite. When young adults act on impulse they might not make the best decision, and the parents might put restrictions on things that they think the child shouldn't do.
DeleteBut what if one of the children truly is superior, they outmatch the others in every way. In fact this means that the others should almost certainly be completely discarded if not thrown out of the family, weakness is a quality that should not be observed in the gene pool, and must be purged if the line is to remain strong.
DeleteI think that the teenager should be able to decide who is their friend, who they can date, and other things. But I think once the teen’s decisions make them at a high risk of injury, the parents should definitely step in. I think some parents have different rules on what their children can and cannot do because some parents can be overprotective or they can be the opposite and give their children 100% freedom. I think that parents can have different rules because of some of the parent’s personal experiences growing up. And every person has a different way of growing up so that would make everything make more sense. I think that boys and girls should have the same rules because they both have risks from different things in life. I think that boys and girls should get the same chance to do certain things but if it makes one of them less safe, then they should have at least some regulations on the activity. Just to clear this up, these regulations should not be fully decided because of gender. There should be other safety reasons guiding those decisions too.
DeleteI think that the privileges and freedoms awarded to teenagers should be dependent on the trust they form with there parents and they should discuss it with them. I do not believe that teenagers should get total freedom but I also do not think they should be to harshly controlled.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your point that the rules should be based on the trust with the parents. I also agree that the familes should find a happy medium of rules.
DeleteI also agree that rules should be based off of trust. However, I also think that most of the time there isn't a lot of trust between the parent and the teenager. I might be bias, but sometimes I think parents expect there kids to make the wrong decision over the right one. Total freedom is bad, but I think that more times than not the parent is too controlling.
DeleteI agree with this because teenagers need a a good balance of rules in their lives. If they have too strict of rules there is more of a chance of them getting getting broken. But, if there are too little rules, the teenager might be getting in trouble a lot. There needs to be a perfect balance in order for things to work out.
DeleteI definitely agree with this because if parents do not trust their teenager, their will be no bond between them and that will cause the parents to enforce more rules than if they were more trusted. The trust between a kid and a parent is the biggest factor in deciding what the child can and can't do.
DeleteParents should give teenagers enough freedom to learn and grow on their own so when they go into the real world they know what they are doing. I think its important for parents to make sure their kids are safe and are not doing anything too reckless and have talks with them about how to make good decisions. But, ultimately we need to have room to make mistakes and learn how to fix them by ourselves and be able to hang out with our friends and be trusted.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your comment. I think that parents should give an appropriate amount of rules to make sure teenagers are staying safe, but they should give them enough room to make their own decisions and learn for themselves.
DeleteTeenagers should have enough freedom to go and experience the world for them selves. Parents should make sure their kids are safe but don't control almost every aspect of what they do and where they go. If they do stupid stuff then let them learn from their mistakes and remind them not to do it again because it most likely have the same outcome. as long as there is a good level of trust most freedoms come easily
ReplyDeleteI think that the average teenage population as a very irrational body would not make it 5 days without some kind of law or structure. I think it is completely apparent that they are put on a leash by their parents, but the tightness should depend on the behavior and consistency of the child, and managing skills of the parent. Teenagers should be able to decide what path they want to pursue in life, who they wish to associate themselves with, romantically or otherwise. They should be able to make executive decisions on how to act in certain situations when they are the only ones able to make the call. They should be able to make these decisions, but oftentimes it is not good that they do, and depending on the rationality of the person, the adult should step in and make the choice for them.
ReplyDeleteI agree with some of your points. Some teenagers do need to be controlled a little more than others. However, not all teens could only make it 5 days without structure. Some are very independent and rational. Also I don't think its good when adults step in to make choices for teens. It doesn't teach them anything. Teens need to be able to make decisions on their own and if it turns out to be the wrong one its how they will learn. When they go into the real world it will be quite a shock if they were protected their whole life and suddenly there is no one to guide their choices.
DeleteI think that often boys and girls will be restricted to certain things, and often to great avail. A great preceding event for most of our history has limited women that deserved in every right to achieve great things and were capable of great things but were held back and simply asked to look pretty. Meanwhile, many boys were raised who had that same potential but had it simply squandered away because they were left to do whatever they wished, and never had to work, no dedicated effort to build upon their abilities or talent. So, yes this does mean that boys and girls should be able to have the same rules, but realistically, this should not be done exactly, obviously, men and women are very different, and should be treated as such. But that does not involve restricting one to one camp and the other to a different, it only means that while they should be raised with equal care and affection, but simply towards different ways of how to make them decent people respectively in their own lives.
ReplyDeleteIt's very common in today's society, just as it has been throughout history, for parents to treat boys and girls differently. The unfortunate truth is that, as much as we have fought as a society to remove gender roles and stereotypes, they are still very prevalent. Too often parents are overly restrictive on their daughters, while allowing their sons free reign. This comes about as a result of society's ever-present view of women; that they are weak and need protection. This is obviously ridiculous, but this unequal perception of boys and girls is what drives parents to have unequal rules on their children. On the other side however, young women are disproportionately victims of rape and other sexual crimes, and parents often put rules in place for their daughters to prevent these crimes from happening. But the sad truth is that rape can occur anywhere, and too often lies out of the control of the victim, or her/his parents.
ReplyDeleteI think as long as these kids are raised to know whats right vs whats wrong, taught to respect themselves and others, and just know the basic things to be a decent human being, they are allowed to explore what they want and build their own opinions and views on life. Overall everyone needs some kind of structure initially but other than that boys and girls should be treated equally when rules are being applied.
ReplyDeleteI agree that kids should be taught right and wrong, but I think everyone should have a very good structure throughout their life. I feel that if parents give kids a good structure that teaches them right from wrong that they will become decent human beings.
Deletei also agree with this because if a kid learns whats right vs whats wrong then they can make smart decisions on what they do. but they will defiantly need guidance during adolescences.
DeleteI somewhat agree with this, however, its still important for the parent to be involved in their teenagers lives. if the parental figure is completely gone, it could create issues in the teens lie.
ReplyDeleteI think that parents should not have such a big control on what their child is doing. Yes they should be watching over their child, making sure they learn from their mistakes. But they should also give freedom. Children should be able to make choices for themselves and to have that freedom to do so. I have seen parents let guys have more free rain than girls and in my option i think parents should let both of their children have the same amount of free rain.
ReplyDeleteI think that parents should have control but not to much. For example if my mom had me get an arranged marriage that is to much. But if they let me go where ever i wanted and didn't care if i ever came home that is to little. In my opinion there is a perfect balance of control. The way to do it is to make sure your kid comes home at a regular time and then also keep on top of the kids grades so they can have a fun life after school.
ReplyDeletei agree but if the consequences are small then the teen will never learn and they will keep the bad habits. I think the parents should let them have enough freedom but not so much that they mess up their adult lives.
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